Ada Muses

Co-Founder Of The Dating Loft, Ada muses on dating, match-making and love….

Top Dating Tip: Faint of Heart never gets you the fair maiden!


I read an article on Dr Goh Keng Swee, one of the founding fathers of modern Singapore, and something that he said strike a chord in me. It was not about his formidable intellect or his outstanding contributions to Singapore, but his single-minded pursuit of his second wife, Dr Phua Swee Liang. His wife shared that she had rejected him several times and had asked him why is he so persistent . His reply was: “Faint of heart never gets you the fair maiden”. Of course he did win over the fair maiden and they were together till his death recently.

I can’t help but admire a man with such persistence, dedication and single-mindedness. The saying that “How you do anything is how you do everything.” rings true. For a man who sets high standards for himself in work and do everything to the best of his ability, you don’t expect anything less of him in his personal life. I can’t help but feel a little ashamed at my own nonchalance and take it for granted attitude sometimes….

That is also the reason why women secretly admire strong-willed and determined men. Because such men are usually successful in school, work/career and life. If you are faint of heart, you will not win the fair maiden (or your career or work or business). I have heard countless feedback from women about local men being too timid, lacking in initiative and decisiveness in relationships. On the other side, to all women: give the men a chance to make the decisions and stop trying to control everything.

 Hence, I would like to encourage all men to have the heart of a lion, be courageous and be persistent in your efforts once you have decided that this is the goal you want.  Good Luck!
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Happy Prosperous Lunar New year!


Here’s wishing all readers a Happy, Joyful and Prosperous Lunar New Year!

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Dating Fiesta: It’s A Date!



The Social Development Network Singapore is organizing a Dating Fiesta at the Suntec City on 20th February. Hahahhaa, Beth is pretty excited because we get to rub shoulders with Mediacorp hunk Nat Ho and babe Paige Chua. =P SHe thinks Nat is cute.

The Dating Loft is having a segment on stage, which means I will be on stage to do a fun and interactive (hopefully) with the singles there. Main theme is how do we make ourselves right to attract and keep the right ones.

So spread the word and hope to see more singles at the fiesta. More information can be found on

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