Came across some interesting words of advice and point of views from a well known male Hong Kong Psychiatrist who says that modern marriages only have a “30%” chance of making it.
He claimed that a famous female psychatrist once said that Chinese women contributed to 90% of all divorces. The main reason being that Chinese Women “liked to be in charge and in control, and to make the decisions”, and that this trait was not that obvious in Japanese and Korean women.
He claimed in one of his conferences, a very successful career woman came to him and asked him for advice to “tame her husband (to be obedient to her)”. He asked her: “Why do you need your husband to be obedient? He is not a pet or project that you need to tame or accomplish. Isn’t it enough that he loves/cherishes you?”
He further elaborates on the definition of a wife who “Wang Fu”, who helps her husband to achieve success in life. It has less to do with her “8 characters” at birth, but more to do with HERSELF. Is she a supportive and encouraging wife who can be a pillar of strength for her husband and family?
Or is she negative and always complaining and comparing her husband with others? This type of wives are referred to as “Ke Fu”, who poises a stumbling block to her husband’s success.
He claimed too that there are too many “Ke Fu” wives out there, while “Wang Fu” wives are sorely lacking (thus in great demand). Guys – Choose your spouses carefully if you want to achieve the goals you want in life. Externals such as looks and age can only bring you that far.
Gals – BE the ONE that you Want. If you want your spouse to be successful and provide financial and emotional security for you, then BE THE ONE that he can cherish and love.