Ada Muses

Co-Founder Of The Dating Loft, Ada muses on dating, match-making and love….

New Study: Men loves Powerful (and BAD) Women?


Does the modern (emancipated) man really prefers the powerful (and not to mention strong, sexy and BAD) women? A recent research shows “66 per cent of men are most attracted to high-flying females, rising to 71 per cent among 30 to 34 year old men”. A girl who is strong, independent and professional is likely to be far more appealing to the modern male, according to the study.

Frankly I was a little surprised with the results of this study. However I do want to point out that this study was done on British men, and Europeans are purported to be more “modern in outlook, more accepting of gender-equality ideas, and just generally more open-minded about things like that….but still 66-71%??? Angelina Jolies and Megan Fox are in demand now.

“Experts say this is not only due to changing gender roles but due to economic hardship men may also be taking a more traditionally female view and looking for a ‘provider’….”

So it seems now that BOTH the men and women wants someone who is “powerful, Strong and Independent, and Sexy, not to forget, BAD. As a (hopefully) strong and independent modern woman, I do appreciate that my kind is sought after by my male counterparts but eeeewks….I don’t see myself as a ‘provider’ and will I do not think I will take kindly to being perceived as one by the modern man.

A telling point about the allure of such “powerful” women seems to be that they “who have it all have a buzz about them, they are not so readily available and the guys flock to them.’ Confidence is seductive, and it seems now POWER is the ultimate aphrodisiac.

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Join us for a night of sexy fun in our Singlet Party!


Join us for a night of sexy fun at The Singlet Party at The Forbidden City!
Date: 11/02/2011
Time: 8pm till late
Location: The Forbidden City, Clarke Quay
Price: $35 (including 1 glass of champagne)
Dress Code: The WHite Singlet
Fabulous prizes await the lucky single!
Win a 3D2N stay at the Indochine Villa at Phuket, and fabulous prizes from The Dating Loft, Banana Republic, True Fitness and True Yoga and Bonafides!
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Time of the Year again….


It is the time of the year again….to reflect, to feel, to take a breather from the hecticness of the past year. Received an email from a friend on setting new year’s resolution which I thought was quite useful especially for people who like to set up frameworks and timelines. Here are some tips from Dr Stephen Covey, author of the book – The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

Importance of setting resolutions
In his book, Dr Covey states that a highly effective person always begins with the end in mind. One important message that we can deduce from this statement is that the key to success lies in the ability to identify the goals and targets that we intend to achieve. With an objective being clearly defined, we would be better prepared and organized during the process of achieving it.
Next, Dr Covey points out that if the ladder that we are climbing is not leaning against the right wall, every step that we take directs us to the wrong destination quicker. After a goal has been set, it is hence critical that we have the best possible support to help us to reach it. With the correct assistance, we would be able to save much time and effort instead of wasting precious energies. 
Lastly, Dr Covey says that everything is created twice, with once in mind, then in physical. Therefore, theoretically everything is possible and nothing is deemed impossible to attain. The sky is truly the limit. Why restrict ourselves to only the things that we know? Before you set out to accomplish a goal, open your mind, let your imagination runs free, be receptive to new ideas, and you would be amazed by the power of a free mind. Remember, explore all the available opportunities and tap the boundless potentials waiting for you.

Reflect on past year’s resolutions
We have just talked about the importance of setting resolutions. Now, let’s reflect on the resolutions that you have made for this year. This is the time for you to sit down and quietly reflect on three main areas:

Firstly, where did I do well? If you managed to achieve certain resolutions, give yourself a pat on the back for a job well done. Feeling positive and encouraged would go a long way in sustaining your interest in realizing other resolutions.
Secondly, where can I improve further? Target the areas that you feel you can improve on and strive to achieve better results the next time round. Through this constant process of identifying the areas that need improvements, you would be able to build on past experiences and establish a more solid foundation.
Thirdly, who can help me to improve further? Sometimes, it is difficult to fight a battle alone. Hence, you might have to recruit a team of advisors, armed with the necessary knowledge and skills, to bring you to greater heights.

Enjoy your resolutions! I haven’t been setting resolutions as well….maybe it is time to start.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!
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Revelry at Revel!


We had a really good time at Revel last Saturday! This is the first time The Dating Loft is coming in as a co-organiser for this event. We joined ADAMS (Association of Accredited Dating Agencies) this year and joined the rest of the agencies in planning and executing this event. A big thanks to all the 300 singles who came, danced, drank and partied! The feedback was overwhelmingly positive, and we definitely look forward to next year’s event which will be BETTER and BIGGER. Special mention to our kind sponsors: Evolle (, Adonis (, Marie France (, Svenson (, Bordeaux Liquid Gold (, Sarpino’s Pizza (, Inqueenz Training Academy ( Bacardi (

Words of Wisdom from a Hong Kong Psychiatrist


Came across some interesting words of advice and point of views from a well known male Hong Kong Psychiatrist who says that modern marriages only have a “30%” chance of making it.

He claimed that a famous female psychatrist once said that Chinese women contributed to 90% of all divorces. The main reason being that Chinese Women “liked to be in charge and in control, and to make the decisions”, and that this trait was not that obvious in Japanese and Korean women.

He claimed in one of his conferences, a very successful career woman came to him and asked him for advice to “tame her husband (to be obedient to her)”. He asked her: “Why do you need your husband to be obedient? He is not a pet or project that you need to tame or accomplish. Isn’t it enough that he loves/cherishes you?”

He further elaborates on the definition of a wife who “Wang Fu”, who helps her husband to achieve success in life. It has less to do with her “8 characters” at birth, but more to do with HERSELF. Is she a supportive and encouraging wife who can be a pillar of strength for her husband and family?

Or is she negative and always complaining and comparing her husband with others? This type of wives are referred to as “Ke Fu”, who poises a stumbling block to her husband’s success.

He claimed too that there are too many “Ke Fu” wives out there, while “Wang Fu” wives are sorely lacking (thus in great demand). Guys – Choose your spouses carefully if you want to achieve the goals you want in life. Externals such as looks and age can only bring you that far.

Gals – BE the ONE that you Want. If you want your spouse to be successful and provide financial and emotional security for you, then BE THE ONE that he can cherish and love.
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